Reflecting on IWD; A letter to my son

“Happy is the son whose faith in his mother remains unchallenged” — Louisa May Alcott

To my son,

This weekend was International Women’s Day, and you’ll see I wrote your sister a letter to celebrate and to ensure she believes in what she’s truly capable of. You’re far too young to understand what this means for women all over the world and why this day exists at all, but sadly, there is still plenty of evidence today to showcase why it is necessary.

However, this letter to you isn’t to explain why women have had it so tough and why they still need a voice in every room or credit for their achievements. This is a letter to celebrate the brilliant men who stood by us, who saw the potential in equality, and who allowed us to gain what so many of us have achieved thus far. Incredible women led the way, but brave men stepped aside to let them through.

International Women’s Day celebrates the incredible contributions of women all over the world, both in history and in our own lives. Throughout history, there have been strong, kind, and courageous men who have understood that when women thrive, society thrives. These men have been leaders, fathers, sons, brothers, and friends who have lifted others up, not by taking power away but by sharing it. They have shown that true strength isn’t about being the loudest or the toughest, but about being fair, respectful, and always willing to do what is right—even when it’s hard.

As you grow, I want you to think about what it truly means to be a man. Real masculinity is not about being aggressive or trying to control others. It’s about being confident without being cruel, strong without being unkind, and protective without being overbearing. A good man listens, learns, and stands up for what is right. He treats women not as people who need saving but as equals who deserve respect and opportunities, just as he does.

When you look at me, what do you see? Probably someone who works too much and shouts at you when you pretend to have forgotten your homework folder. But I hope you also see a woman who is strong, determined, and fiercely protective of you. The woman who helps you fight your battles when needed, stands by your side no matter what, and always has your back. But I am also the woman who teaches you accountability, shows you where the lines are and helps you understand the importance of respect and responsibility. I am a reminder that strength and kindness can exist together, and that true power comes from love, resilience, and wisdom.

Your role in this world is important. Every day, in small ways, you can help women and girls around you feel safe, valued, and heard. It can be as simple as speaking up when you see unfairness, being a good friend, or treating everyone with kindness and respect. It means making space for others, not just taking space for yourself. I’m sure the fact that you spend your time living with mainly women has already had an impact. I see examples of this from you all the time and I know your sister, your aunty and the rest of the family do too.

Being a decent man is not about being perfect—it’s about always striving to be better. It’s about having the courage to admit when you are wrong, the wisdom to listen, and the heart to care deeply for those around you. The world needs more men like that, and I know you have everything it takes to be one of them.

I am so proud of you and the person you are becoming. Keep being kind, keep being strong, and most of all, keep being you.